My mom is in a long-term care facility, and my dad said he feels like he is living like a single person even though he is still married. When he comes home at night, he has no one to talk to. I can see the loneliness in my father, I don't think he will be one to manage well without companionship.
The Boy turned thirteen this week, and both my father and physical therapist said boys at that age start thinking about girls. (Jack moved a lot at that age, and is kind of hazy on his early teens.) I can see the Boy starting to date in the next few years as he enters high school.
This afternoon, I had this really crazy thought--there will probably be a time in the next few years when my father and son are both in the dating scene. I am not sure how I will take all of that. I don't want to see my father suffer in loneliness, but to have to watch my son and father start dating at the same time would be a little odd. I figured that my son might be dating in the next few years, but I hadn't thought about my dad. My dad and the Boy talk on the phone about quad-copters and legos and rockets, which is cool. Would they talk about dating? Here I would be, sandwiched between my son and father. I guess that is why they call it middle age.
If they are making movies about widows and widowers dating, I suppose it is because it is a real phenomena. I will have to be ready for it when it happens.
* My family called me "Laurie" growing up. My mom thought "Lauren" was too big of a name for a little girl.
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